Sometimes the pace of life and routine block our minds that we do not notice very important changes. After all, even the smallest details are often important in a relationship with a man. However, taking as true belief that “everything is good”, you should not miss the moments that may signal that the relationship are gradually giving a crack. Continue reading
Office Romance is resonant, it is discussed in the smoking room, it’s a cause for envy and revenge from other colleagues, it is vehemently hated by bosses.
At the moment – it is a widely studied phenomenon of corporate life. Moreover, fines, reprimands and bans on office romances do not work. They become a headache of management for the simple reason that the employees’ relationships have bad effect on labor productivity.
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Whatever the job may be, but it is, above all, responsibility. Whether you like it or not, but then it affects the relationship. And the sign of equality between “work” and “soul mate” is getting evident.
A natural desire of a person in love is to see the object of love as often as possible. But, in case of office romance a rejection instinct comes into effect as frequent meetings at work are set by the rules of the company. We intuitively resist what we are forced to do. A relationship breakdown comes.
At the time of the beginning of relations, people have a sense of unknown. Here comes the questions – whether I see him/her today or not. In the workplace, these questions do not arise. Work schedule is the same for everyone. Thus, the meeting of two lovers at work are 100% guaranteed. By the way, these daily meetings, no matter how bright they are, leave traces of fatigue. After all, no one wants to eat only sweets. Eventually, a moment will come when you want something salty.
Competition. State in which it is difficult to maintain an adequate attitude to a person. And if one of lovers has been promoted, the other one is difficult and sometimes impossible, to maintain a fair relationship to the object of love. Such unions are doomed to failure.
Do not forget about wagging tongues. So, before you plunge headlong into office romance, consider this: “Do you really need it?”. I understand that the explosion of hormones is a serious matter, but the mind has not been canceled.
Walking in the moonlight, kissing, hugging and promises – you’re in love. But once waking up one morning, you realize that this is not enough. You want something more serious. And you decide: “Let us live together!” At first glance, the idea seems simple and romantic, but then many questions and different thoughts arise: “Are we going to be happy?”, “What will change in our relationship?”. Remember that this is a serious step that requires a greater responsibility.
What must be taken into account, starting to live together with your soul-mate? When you were just dating, he was perfect, but it later became clear that he was not on friendly terms with the vacuum cleaner, hates washing up and, in addition, he also needs to be fed regularly. What to do? First of all, you need to agree on who is responsible for what. For example, you cook and do the washing up, and your man – takes out the garbage and does cleaning. By the way, walks together to the store can spiritually unite. And most importantly – if you are not satisfied with something in his behavior, there is no need to be nervous, calmly explain what you do not like and why.
Of course, it is not very interesting to talk about the accounts for accommodation and food, when you are in love and just started to live with the guy, but it is better to negotiate in order to escape the conflict. Ideal variant is divide in half. You can also keep a budget. But if you have a really strong union, it’s all very simple: everyone throws in a “family pot” as much as it is possible, then this amount is spent on general or individual needs. This has another advantage: this way, a sense of confidence is developed as well as a sense of responsibility for the family.
You have always had friends, and you thought that they will disappear with the beginning of family life, and his whole life will belong only to you. But it turned out that your man’s friends invite to him the party almost every Saturday, then he runs to drink a beer and suddenly needs to speak “from the heart”. And it never ends! What to do? You can just make friends with them, so that they have the desire to take you with them. The main thing is not to make a big mistake, in any case you can not demand that all those people from his bachelor life should forget the way to your home! First and foremost, you need to accept the fact that he had his own personal life before he met you.
Do not forget: you have to hide somewhere far away your curlers, old sweat pants, very convenient to you. Your home clothes should be nice and tasteful. Nobody asks you to put on sexy clothes every evening, just be neat and petted!
And if you decided to live with your guy, then be sure you made the right decision and it depends largely on your future together.
To a greater or lesser extent, but every woman’s dream – is to get married. And it is fine to dream of a fairy-tale prince who you meet on your way, but when you met him, when he wakes up every day with you but he is not in a hurry to make your dream come true – it is a problem.
Men admit that they do not dream to get married since birth by nature, and, moreover, they consider marriage a kind of sacrifice. We dream of marriage, they consider it a victim. We are so different.
But what to do if there’s one the most loving and beloved man by your side, but he does not propose? What to do?
1. Accept it and wait.
It’s not the most active way to solve the problem, but still. As they say that the stamp in the passport has never decided anything yet. And, apparently, does it matter whether you are an official spouse or your family is not legalized? You want to be with him. Perhaps he really needs more time. If you’re ready to give him this time, be patient.
2. Think carefully.
Do you really want him to become your husband? Is he the person with whom you are willing to go through the life without looking back and looking around? If you are still confident that he is the one, then squeeze him. Try to win marriage by all means, but remember that the forced marriage does not bring happiness. No single man wants to marry under pressure.
3. Puzzle him.
If you have long declared straight that you want to marry him, but he does not hurry up, try to be more tricky. Well, make him think you changed your mind. You wanted it but you reconsidered. Tell him, “You know, dear, I wanted to marry you so long, and now I realized that I do not want really wanted it”. This should stun him. What does it mean, you do not want? You have to! If you are dear to him, and he will believe in his “unwillingness”, then maybe he would like to marry you.
4. Stop fooling yourself.
If you have already talked with him and, and puzzled him, and left him and returned, and waited, and he still does not want to marry you, saying that “we need to wait a little bit”, then maybe it’s time to admit that he does not want and will not marry you. Stop believing in that “wait a little bit“. This is the most common man made trap. Such a “little bit” tends to last for several years, during which you will be totally suspended. And it’s not fair. Maybe you should look for someone who will be more decisive here and now?
Recently, there is a tendency to have a partner in the so-called open relationship. This is such a relationship when a man and woman meet from time to time, there is an intimate relationship between them , but they do not live together. In addition, the bed is basically the only and the most important element for such a couple, often they do not have material or moral obligations to each other.
Why is the number of such alliances growing every year? Is it a decline of morality in the society or an appeal to modern trends? The thing is that, oddly enough, often these relationships are initiated by women – in 80% of cases. Most modern ladies are intended to build a career, independence and full exclusion from such household trifles, like washing socks and cooking. They do not want to depend on men neither morally nor financially, and they find it convenient to have such a relationship – to have a regular sex partner. After all, even a strong woman needs affection, sex, intercourse with a man. Many women prefer such a relationship, because this way they get enough male attention, while not bothering with daily routine, commitments and quarrels.
As for the men, such relationship is often interesting for:
– Married men, having a romantic and sexual relationship with mistresses;
– Men-boys who do not grow up with age, just getting older;
– Such relations are possible between the former partners who broke up, but wish to remain in intimate relationships.
Advantages and disadvantages of open relationship
• There is a regular sexual partner;
• Lack of moral and material obligations;
• No domestic problems and complaints;
• Rare dates ignite passion;
• There are almost no reasons for quarrels, so most often this relationship is more harmonious than the relationship of those who are married or living together.
• First, none of the partners has a guarantee that his so-called soul-mate has similar open relationship with someone else;
• Second, it is possible that a partner agreed to such relationship, due to the fact that his/her partner is experiencing feelings of love, and someone in that relationship can morally exhaust him/herself at the time, when his/her partner is quite happy.
• Most of these relationships are short, because subconsciously, and a man and a woman create a union for procreation, natural instincts take over and the union falls under the influence of the revaluation of life values.
Naturally, there is a special attractiveness and romance in the open relationship. Some relationships of this kind last longer than law marriages, and in rare cases they can even end with march of Mendelssohn. However, if we consider moral and religious aspect of the question, we can not call such a relationship more than a partnership in which both people are simply trying to get away from obligations.
Still, the number of such couples is growing every year, it means that modern men and women organize relations not burdened by the concepts of “must”, household responsibilities and mutual claims. It’s each of us who decides whether to prefer an open relationship, which sometimes bring more joy in life, or to have a family.